I was talking about finding your joy. Once you realize your joy, then you'll need to do your children a favor. That would be to take time to nurture your marriage. If you are a responsible owner of a car, you take it in for proper maintenance. You keep it clean, get the oil changed, do the 30,000 mile check. You get the drift. Why wouldn't you do the same maintenance with your marriage?
When you have children it is too easy to get caught up in them and forget about each other. Fatigue usually takes over and then there is no time for each other. Hire a babysitter, ask the grandparents, or trade child care with friends, but get out together without those kids. Forget the movie date. Go to dinner. A nice place that doesn't make you rush so you can talk, talk, and talk some more. The baby will be ok. The kids will survive. They will leave home one day and you will want to make sure you have invested the time in each other so that nothing has been lost in your relationship.
At least one weekend a year needs to be devoted to the two of you and NO KIDS. Call it the marriage tune up. Your children will thank you for it and get used to it. Our boys used to ask us when we were going on our next date. I explained to them that Mommy and Daddy love each other and that one day they would leave home and it would be just Mommy and Daddy alone again. It was important for them to know that we would always love each other, like each other. We were setting an example for our children.
We have been married for 35 years. Our children are 30 and 27. We have such a great time together now, it is like it was before we had children. That didn't come without work. We made time for each other every week. If an evening date didn't work, then it was a breakfast date or lunch date. NO KIDS!
We gave our kids almost all of our time. What was left we gave to each other. It was worth every minute.
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